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"Often times we confuse what we require and what we desire in relationships. We make a list of all the important traits we want in a partner, with very little concept of what we really need in our relationships. Our lists often include items about physical appearance, the level of income or career, and may end with a general statement like “they make me feel happy.” I hate to break it to you, but you are the one that is responsible for insuring that you are happy and your needs get met. It is up to you to understand what you need in a relationship versus what you want, and it is your responsibility to effectively communicate those things.
Here are some critical thinking questions that can help you really check whether your desire or impulse is a need or a want:
Is this something that I need in my relationship in order to be satisfied?
Is this something that I can live without?
If I don’t get this thing what will be the result?
Is this a requirement for a healthy relationship?
Am I being impulsive?
Am I comparing my relationship to other’s relationships?
Have I seen this modeled in a real life relationship?
What tells me or shows me that I need this in my relationship?"
The best way to attract a high quality person is to be a high quality person..
Being single isn’t a sentence. It’s an opportunity to live your best life..
Are you taking up hobbies? ..
Do you have fun trips planned with friends or alone?..
Are you learning and growing by reading and listening to podcasts?..
Are you working with a therapist to resolve emotional issues so that when you meet a great potential partner, you can bring your best self? ..
Are you exploring your city and taking yourself out on dates?..
I promise, when you are so busy leveling up, having fun, and being more of YOU, you’ll become a magnet..
More people will want to be around you, befriend you and date you..
There is nothing as charming and attractive as someone who is comfortable with self, living her best life, and having fun..
Stop waiting to have adventures until you meet someone special..
Live your best life today..
Have you ever been with someone who stops you being who you really want to be? It's not a healthy thing at all!
1007186 days ago
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Dear Gay Agony Uncle
Last weekend I hooked up with a guy. He’s in a relationship with another guy, he claimed to have ‘an arrangement’ with his partner about sleeping with other guys. I’m single and he is hot, so naturally I thought what the hell, and we had a great evening and morning,
On Monday I had his partner on my door, he was screaming and yelling at me, saying I was “stealing his husband.” I invited him in and gave him my side of the the story. He calmed down, coffee turned into wine. Then wine turned into spirits. The husband made a proposition towards me, I politely declined, but was tempted. I called him an Uber to take him home.
On Tuesday the partner who I slept with turned up at my door. Furious that he’d been told I’d made a play towards his partner. I put him right and told him he’d told me that he told me he had an ‘arrangement’ which was untrue.
On Wednesday they both turned up at my door, both apologising for the lies and behaviour. I invited them in, we had a few drinks and an amazing threesome. They left in the early hours of Thursday.
On Thursday evening the first one I slept with turned up expecting sex, I declined as I had to prepare for a morning meeting where I had a presentation to deliver.
They both turned up on Friday, expecting another threesome. I declined. I said I was no longer available, not that it wasn’t fun, I just don’t want the drama. They both keep texting me wanting to have sex independently without the other.
They don’t seem to take no for an answer. How do I knock this on the head?
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501 hours ago
We all make mistakes in many areas in life. Especially when it comes to our love life💔❤️.
Often times, we make mistakes because we don’t know the RIGHT way to do something.
But sometimes, we ⭐️KNOW what the right decision is for us, but our 💗EMOTIONS get in the way.
And before I unnecessarily offend people (ahem- the men that visit this page and seem to think I’m anit-men when in reality I’m pro-GOOD-men), I’m not meaning “do better” when it comes to looks, finances, what he drives, career choice, and other superficial things.
I’m talking to the woman that is reading this right now that ⭐️KNOWS: she deserves better.
💟She deserves someone who is there for her the way she is there for him.
💟She deserves someone who is consistent and reliable like she is.
💟She deserves someone who doesn’t play mind games and is honest like she is.
Yet, she’s found herself really caring for a guy (and seeing so much potential) who isn’t treating her this way.
All of her friends tell her, “You deserve better.”💕
She even sometimes agrees and says, “Yeah, I know.”😔
👉If this is you (and you know it!) 🛑STOP giving so much of you precious-amazing-loving-loyal self to someone who doesn’t deserve it.
💥Listen to me: You CAN do better.
When the feelings are MUTUAL… the EFFORT is mutual.
Take the first step to say BYYYEEEEEE 👋because:
You. 👏Are. 👏Worth. 👏It.
Drunk texts are important as it shows they care. Do you agree?
202212 hours ago
We’ve heard the feedback and have been busy working behind the scenes making the website easier for you to navigate. You don’t want to spend forever online dating, and we’re determined to help.
In the meantime, how is your dating life going?
312 hours ago
Be so busy living your best life that you won’t have time to care..
It does not matter what others think of you as long as you are living your authentic truth..
The higher you go, the greater your purpose, the more aligned you are with your authentic and powerful self, the more criticism..
No one living an amazing life will criticize anyone doing more..
Who cares if someone you like “rejects” you - they don’t even know you..
Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you..
How people feel about you is a reflection of their insecurities, fears and limitations - not yours..
Stand tall in your truth and own all that you are..
#authenticlife#highestself#bestlife#regran#thegoodquote🌻 #relationshipgoals❤️ #couplesgoals#lifegoals❤️ #truthwillsetyoufree#naysayers#wednesdaymotivation
Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide. -
For more info check out the link in the bio. -
23rd February 2019
You are invited to a series of Unexpected connections event's. -
Each event with a different theme all with the intention to create a Unexpected Connection.
Sometimes when we step more into who we really are, others will be threatened. Our higher selves start to shine through, and the facade of the ego starts to fall away.
This is beautiful.... AND ... it's normal in relationships.
However, there may be people in your life who may be very negative towards you with the changes you are making.
What's happening is you are changing the "unspoken agreement" you formed in the beginning of the relationship. When one person grows, and the other person doesn't, it can feel threatening to their ego. The other person may even go so far as to try to guilt trip you, or say and do things to try and enforce the unspoken agreements y'all have formed. This can be frightening to your ego, as its sole purpose is to protect the false identity it's created.
Your truest expression of self is LIGHT in pure form. Your job here on earth is to radiate light, which means allowing beliefs and ideas that block your divinity, to fall away.
Yes, your relationships may only seem to suffer because of this. And, it can be scary and disheartening. One thing to remember is that the love is always there, and cannot be taken away, even if the relationship seems to change form.
Relationships are meant to change form, and they are meant to help us expand and grow into our highest expression of our true selves. The relationships that are meant to stay, will stay... and the ones that are meant to leave, will fall away. The best thing you can do for others is BE the highest expression of yourself. BE who you were meant to be, which is a shining expression of light. ✨DO NOT STOP SHINING. ✨
512 hours ago
I didn’t set my alarm last night after working on plans for @profilerewind and woke up late. Yesterday’s snow covering my car made me even later, but I’m happy and energized because working on my own ish fulfills me. 🙌🏾
The of January is near. How are your goals coming along? ✨
1452 hours ago
Burnt out with the whole dating scene? Sick of swiping profiles & making 0 connections? Gave up & cancelled all of your apps & online accounts & said “I’m just going to meet someone naturally” & you then you took away your safety blanket & said, "Ugh... now what?" Then realized you don’t know where to go, what to do or how to connect with quality people in the real world!
I’m going to be brutally honest... numbing out & swiping endlessly on profiles, or just going out with your girlfriends & sitting in a corner table at a bar complaining about how there are no good guys out there are NOT good strategies to meet people. So you might be either swiping on a device without connecting OR you are going out & swiping people without connecting... neither of which are effective. You're literally just going through the motions without having deeper, meaningful connections - leading to more frustration & negativity which leaks into your dates & BAM you have dating burnout.
When in this rabbit hole, dating is discouraging, but I want to help turn that around by discussing how to put the fun back into dating to actually make deeper connections. So I did something a little different the Charisma Quotient Podcast this week. To help move the discussion, I brought on @GreatLoveDebate’s @BrianHowie & Charles Messow, founder of a new dating app, COVE (@MeetInTheCove), which focuses on uncovering chemistry through deeper & more meaningful forms of communication.
•Male & female perspectives around the challenges of dating
•How to start a successful conversation & connection through dating apps & real life interactions
•Ways to increase your social interaction & approachability factor
You might think that our attention spans have been stunted & our trust in each other has diminished, but this episode will give you hope for the future!
Tap the link in my bio to stream now & happy listening!
P.S. Sign up today meetinthecove.com with my code "KSELTZER" & get a special bonus of free additional “likes” (Link in bio)
Do you think it’s possible many of us wouldn’t actually like the “bad boy” had we been told a different story?
We’ve been raised to believe if a boy is mean to us, then he likes us. Then we grow into women fighting for relationships that hurt us.
Luckily we can re-write our story today. And for me, I only choose men that show up for me, respect me, adore me and see my worth.
Let’s share this message with the next generation! Thank you @kingsophiesworld for your work!
About two months ago, I was scrolling through my Instagram feed and came across the most beautiful woman and man holding hands on a luxury vacation. She was wearing a beautiful white dress and he was in a white suit. Their smiles were radiant and you could see the love in their eyes. ▫️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This elegant woman was also a former client of mine, so I followed up to celebrate her for opening her heart up to experience love and intimacy at the deepest level. She shared with me that even their fights are the most beautiful thing because she is fully open to sharing herself with him so that they can grow closer together spiritually and further deepen the intimacy they share."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I asked her to share what life has been like since we last spoke and these are her words: "When I first spoke with Laura, I was fearful, overwhelmed, and untrusting of my own self because of the traumatic divorce I had gone through 4 years earlier. I still had so much fear, I was completely out of touch with my heart and unable to admit to myself what my heart even wanted. Laura was a beautiful voice of reason and a strong hand to hold through both admitting to myself what had happened and identifying what my heart wanted now. She also taught me the tools I needed to continue our work even after our sessions were complete. Because I learned to trust myself again and now know what my hearts true desires are I was able to create a very beautiful relationship with an amazing man!!! With confidence to communicate and trust in myself, life has actually been more fun and satisfying than I ever experience in my past. I am now grateful for my past and excited about my future. Thank you Laura for helping me find my way!!!" -Maggie⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
914 hours ago
"Einst hatt ich einen schönen Traum Da sah ich einen Apfelbaum, Zwei schöne Äpfel glänzten dran, Sie reizten mich, ich stieg hinan." 🌟Wusstest Du schon🌟, sogar Johann Wolfgang von Goethe pries in seinem -Faust- den Apfel.
Der 🍎Apfel ist seit Uhrzeiten ein Symbol der Verführung!
Koste bei ➡️ www.forbiddenfruit.de von seiner sinnlichen Verführungskraft und begib Dich in eine Welt voller Leidenschaftlicher Momente.
🔜PS.: Morgen beginnt unser neues Gewinnspiel und Du bekommst wieder die Chance eine Box mit sinnlichen Sex-Toys zu gewinnen❤
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2314 hours ago
"You have such a sexy ass" can be said in so many ways, different tonality, different words, different emotions.
It's all about you INTENTION. 🦁
I remember I used to go out to the mall challenging myself by talking with girls only in a certain way that turns them on. 🌊🌊
I was talking about fucking directions or a present for a little sister, but I just used such a deep and low tone of voice, used very interesting words that has double meaning and just played with that as much as I want.
You could see clearly how WET they were getting.
This is true for every emotions you want to create, just put your focus and intention in the right place and this is exactly where you will go!! 😈😈
What is your intention when you approach a girl?
3034 hours ago
wherever you’re at in your life- single and looking for clarity on life’s purpose, dating, in a long term relationship, experiencing loss.... this relationship expert has something for you >>> @canadasdatingcoach 💕
1924 hours ago
One rule I like to live by is to never wish you were somewhere else.
Every moment is a gift, and you only get so many moments, so enjoy every single one.
Instead of wishing that it was the Summer, or that it was 2020, or that you were living in on a beach in Hawaii - Find a way to improve your life today!
Happiness is always my priority.
Take some risks! Kick some ass!
The weight loss LIE that's keeping you from having incredible secks... 💋 😍
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14315 hours ago
Do you believe that everyone is kind and got good intentions?? When someone s**ts on your heart is it because they are evil?? Is it because they're hurting? Why does it happen?
A stranger at the bar gave me something in case I get attacked roaming by myself. He says India is not safe.
I was also offered $200 for the services unknown to me.
I'll talk about it during my facebook live this evening 7PM 🇬🇧, 2PM EST
Let's catch up 😘
Grounds for NEXTING a man include: if he won't drive to your area for the date, if he asks you to split the bill for dinner, if he skips your birthday or a big holiday, if he's rude and neglectful. What other reasons can you think of?
ARE YOU READY TO FORGIVE ALL MEN?⠀
There is no better way to begin the process of attracting great men than to forgive ALL of them and to be in loads of gratitude and appreciation for how truly incredible men really are. ⠀
And let me tell you, there is nothing more sexy, beautiful, loving, compassionate or giving than a good man who has done his own work. ⠀
But what do you do if you are still stuck in so much pain from previous partners hurting you or men letting you down and the forgiveness piece just won't come? ⠀
1) Allow yourself to feel ALL of the pain, grief and sadness around what happened and don't try to fix it, change it or rush through the process. Just be. ⠀
2) Accept the shadow part of you that may WANT to BE angry at men, blame them for where you are and have compassion for that part of you. (This piece doesn't apply to everyone ❤️) ⠀
3) Write angry, vicious letters to the men who hurt you and get it all out. Don't censor yourself or hold back at all. Let it rip but don't mail the letters. ⠀
4) Do a Gestalt empty chair exercise where you SAY IT ALL to the man who hurt you and you don't resist a thing. You say everything and free yourself. ⠀
5) Allow your brain a lovely revenge fantasy where you pay him back or do whatever you need so you can move on and set both of you free for good. (Thank you Louise Hay for this one.) ⠀
6) After you are complete, forgiveness can take place, but more on that later. ⠀
Ps. These steps work just as well for a man wanting to release his anger towards a woman. ⠀
Love you all! 😘⠀
My private coaching is now open again and I'm taking ten spaces!⠀⠀⠀
Book a free call and let’s chat 👆 👆 👆 ⠀⠀⠀